Blogs, Articles & Long Reads
DISCLAIMER: Narcissists are not all male. Using male pronouns to reference the narcissist and female pronouns to reference the victim-survivor is not an indication of the clinical data on gender in narcissism, but rather an editorial choice. This blog is written for female survivors of male perpetrators.
Are Psychopaths Mentally Superior?
Psychopaths are free from guilt, remorse and shame. They don't beat themselves up for doing a bad thing or being a bad person. They never feel the need to apologise. They believe themselves blameless and mentally superior.
What to Do When Your Family Blames You
How does the family scapegoat recover from narcissistic abuse
How To Handle a Family Narcissist
How to use mindfulness (Grey Rock) and keeping a healthy distance from a narcissist instead of ‘pandering’ or ‘co-dependent’ behaviours.
Playing Dirty - A Story of Post-Separation Abuse
The narcissistic sociopath’s capacity for playing dirty should never be underestimated. Without a conscience and incapable of feeling remorse, there is barely any unconscionable behaviour that is off limits in a playing field that is hidden from public view, like the Family Court…
Pressing Delete - The Discard Destroy Phases
There will still be shock at the sudden personality change. The mask of the devoted husband has dropped, and what is left is unrecognisable to you – a cold, callous, calculated automaton.
Divorcing a Narcopath
Prepare for the very worst in human behaviour when entering into a legal dispute with a narcopath. He wants to destroy you by whatever means possible. You will need as much courage as you can muster.
Narcissistic Logic Psychopathic Morality
The principles of a man devoid of empathy, conscience and morals are very simple. I’ll take whatever I want, no matter what the harm to others.
Narcopath or Garden-Variety Jerk
Narcissist, Sociopath, Psychopath or Jerk
Just how dangerous is your ex? Is he just behaving like an angry jerk or is he dangerously manipulative and abusive? Can we ever be friends again?
Betrayal Trauma
Betrayal trauma is one of the most severe forms of psychological trauma that a human can undergo, yet it is un-acknowledged in our culture (aside from childhood betrayal). This lack of recognition can lead to those betrayed having their trauma minimised and demeaned, thus leading to secondary trauma. Betrayal is a wound to the soul: a deep moral injury.
Manipulation Tactics of a Love Fraud
Here are some manipulation techniques that fly under the radar for those trusting souls amongst us. In order of escalation - as the narcopath tightens the screw.
Is Your Ex a Narcopath?
Here’s how you know that your ex-partner is not neuro-typical (of normal psychological make-up). If he exhibits four or more of these traits regularly and frequently, he’s likely on the narcissistic or sociopathic spectrum.
The Narcissistic Relationship Cycle
Every interpersonal relationship of a narcopath passes through these three (or four) phases as a repetition compulsion. You and I might have a repeating relationship pattern too, and find ourselves drawn time and again to similar types.
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MindfulnessHealing
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MindfulnessTechniques
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NarcissisticSociopath
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PsychoEducation
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- Oct 18, 2021 Education & Awakening
- Sep 15, 2021 Shame
- Aug 23, 2021 Betrayal Trauma
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Recovery
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- Oct 26, 2020 The Role of Repetition Compulsion in Victimisation
- Oct 5, 2020 Why Me?(…of all the fish in the sea?)
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WhatHappenedToYou
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- Jul 11, 2023 Shame - The Second Arrow
- Nov 15, 2022 Playing Dirty - A Story of Post-Separation Abuse
- Aug 10, 2022 Stage 2 of Recovery
- Jul 11, 2022 Is it Contagious?
- Jan 17, 2022 Narcissistic Logic Psychopathic Morality
- Oct 27, 2021 Narcopath or Garden-Variety Jerk
- Sep 15, 2021 Shame
- Aug 23, 2021 Secondary Trauma
- Aug 23, 2021 Betrayal Trauma
- Sep 27, 2020 No Contact Or Limited Contact?
- Aug 31, 2020 What Is Moral Injury?
- Aug 29, 2020 FAQ
- Aug 20, 2020 Feeling Crazy
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- Jul 11, 2020 Not a Normal Break Up
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