Blogs, Articles & Long Reads
DISCLAIMER: Narcissists are not all male. Using male pronouns to reference the narcissist and female pronouns to reference the victim-survivor is not an indication of the clinical data on gender in narcissism, but rather an editorial choice. This blog is written for female survivors of male perpetrators.
Shame - The Second Arrow
There is a lingering factor in the aftermath of abuse that is difficult to grasp. Shame. Why does our culture shame victims? One woman's take on dealing with being shamed by others and shaming ourselves. A case study and method for healing shame.
How To Handle a Family Narcissist
How to use mindfulness (Grey Rock) and keeping a healthy distance from a narcissist instead of ‘pandering’ or ‘co-dependent’ behaviours.
Antidotes For Reactive Abuse
Being highly reactive is a common trauma symptom. Case studies are filled with instances of women being accused of being the abusive one because they responded to the first hidden punch thrown by the narcopath. This is called reactive abuse.
Self-Care for Stress & Trauma
We have been neglected and abused for a long time. Now, it is time for intensive self-care.
What Do You Most Want to Read About?
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Divorce
- Sep 19, 2022 Divorcing a Narcopath
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MindfulnessHealing
- Dec 9, 2023 A Mindful Approach to Recovery Maintenance
- Feb 7, 2023 What to Do When Your Family Blames You
- Aug 10, 2022 Stage 2 of Recovery
- Sep 15, 2021 Shame
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MindfulnessTechniques
- Jul 11, 2023 Shame - The Second Arrow
- Jan 2, 2023 How To Handle a Family Narcissist
- Feb 1, 2021 Antidotes For Reactive Abuse
- Jun 27, 2020 Self-Care for Stress & Trauma
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NarcissisticSociopath
- Sep 9, 2024 Are Psychopaths Mentally Superior?
- Feb 7, 2023 What to Do When Your Family Blames You
- Jan 2, 2023 How To Handle a Family Narcissist
- Nov 15, 2022 Playing Dirty - A Story of Post-Separation Abuse
- Nov 1, 2022 Pressing Delete - The Discard Destroy Phases
- Sep 19, 2022 Divorcing a Narcopath
- Jan 17, 2022 Narcissistic Logic Psychopathic Morality
- Oct 27, 2021 Narcopath or Garden-Variety Jerk
- Aug 23, 2021 Betrayal Trauma
- Aug 29, 2020 FAQ
- Jul 18, 2020 Manipulation Tactics of a Love Fraud
- Jun 18, 2020 Is Your Ex a Narcopath?
- Jun 18, 2020 The Narcissistic Relationship Cycle
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PsychoEducation
- Sep 9, 2024 Are Psychopaths Mentally Superior?
- Dec 26, 2022 CBT for Later Stage Recovery
- Dec 13, 2022 How To Realign With Your Core Values
- Nov 1, 2022 Pressing Delete - The Discard Destroy Phases
- Jan 17, 2022 Narcissistic Logic Psychopathic Morality
- Oct 27, 2021 Narcopath or Garden-Variety Jerk
- Oct 18, 2021 Education & Awakening
- Sep 15, 2021 Shame
- Aug 23, 2021 Betrayal Trauma
- Aug 31, 2020 What Is Moral Injury?
- Jul 18, 2020 Manipulation Tactics of a Love Fraud
- Jul 11, 2020 Not a Normal Break Up
- Jun 18, 2020 Is Your Ex a Narcopath?
- Jun 18, 2020 The Narcissistic Relationship Cycle
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Recovery
- Feb 7, 2023 What to Do When Your Family Blames You
- Jan 2, 2023 How To Handle a Family Narcissist
- Dec 26, 2022 CBT for Later Stage Recovery
- Dec 13, 2022 How To Realign With Your Core Values
- Jul 11, 2022 Is it Contagious?
- Oct 18, 2021 Education & Awakening
- Aug 23, 2021 Secondary Trauma
- Jun 2, 2021 Stage 1 of Recovery
- May 24, 2021 The Stages of Acceptance
- Feb 1, 2021 Antidotes For Reactive Abuse
- Oct 26, 2020 The Role of Repetition Compulsion in Victimisation
- Oct 5, 2020 Why Me?(…of all the fish in the sea?)
- Sep 27, 2020 No Contact Or Limited Contact?
- Aug 20, 2020 Feeling Crazy
- Jul 11, 2020 Not a Normal Break Up
- Jun 27, 2020 Self-Care for Stress & Trauma
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WhatHappenedToYou
- Dec 9, 2023 A Mindful Approach to Recovery Maintenance
- Jul 11, 2023 Shame - The Second Arrow
- Nov 15, 2022 Playing Dirty - A Story of Post-Separation Abuse
- Aug 10, 2022 Stage 2 of Recovery
- Jul 11, 2022 Is it Contagious?
- Jan 17, 2022 Narcissistic Logic Psychopathic Morality
- Oct 27, 2021 Narcopath or Garden-Variety Jerk
- Sep 15, 2021 Shame
- Aug 23, 2021 Secondary Trauma
- Aug 23, 2021 Betrayal Trauma
- Sep 27, 2020 No Contact Or Limited Contact?
- Aug 31, 2020 What Is Moral Injury?
- Aug 29, 2020 FAQ
- Aug 20, 2020 Feeling Crazy
- Jul 18, 2020 Manipulation Tactics of a Love Fraud
- Jul 11, 2020 Not a Normal Break Up
- Jun 26, 2020 Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome
- Jun 26, 2020 Not a Normal Relationship
- Jun 18, 2020 The Narcissistic Relationship Cycle