DISCLAIMER:
Narcissists are not all male. Using male pronouns to reference the narcissist and female pronouns to reference the victim-survivor is not an indication of the clinical data on gender in narcissism, but rather an editorial choice. This blog is written for female survivors of male perpetrators.
Series 2, Ep 5 The Stages of Acceptance
If we try to answer this question through the lens of Buddhist psychology, we could distil the answer down to one word: resistance.
Change + resistance = struggle.
Series 2 Ep 4 Antidotes For Reactive Abuse
Case studies are filled with instances of women being accused of being the abusive one because they responded to the first hidden punch thrown by the narcopath. This is called reactive abuse. The Buddhist approach is very simple….It’s the very first moment that’s the hardest bit.
Series2 Ep2: Why Me? (…of all the fish in the sea?)
On the whole, narcopaths prey on the kindest, most loyal and generous people. They prey on innocents!
You are not to blame!
Series 2, Ep1 No Contact or Limited Contact
Why does this site and every other Narcissistic Abuse support site recommend NO CONTACT? Because he gets a buzz out of inflicting pain on YOU. We loved and trusted him and placed him at the centre of our universe. So, it can take a while to accept he just doesn't care. He never loved us.
Episode 10: What Is Moral Injury?
One thing that characterises Narcissistic Abuse from other toxic behaviours is the repeated stealthy violation of our core values. These values bond us to our abuser(s), at the same time as their violation causes us great pain. We are torn. This kind of injury is what is meant by a moral injury. Here are a few of those:
Episode 9: FAQ
Tips from women who have survived the devastating impact of relationships with pathologically disordered men. Do's and don'ts for handling abandonment, traumatisation and grief.
You can recover from this. You are stronger than you think. Recovery is a long, winding road.
Episode 8: Feeling Crazy
Your limbic system kicks in, floods your body with fear hormones and adrenalin and you can shift between wanting to fight, freeze or run for your life, but you just can't regain your normal composure from that moment forth. Your body won't let you. It’s in your body!
Episode 6: Not a Normal Break Up
It’s not like you haven’t had a break up before is it? But this one is different. Very, very different. This is not a normal break up.
Episode 5: Self-Care For Stress & Trauma
Some simple distractions to help you feel better in the acute stages of narcissistic abuse recovery
Episode 04: What is Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome
Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome is a devastating mental injury to partners of narcissist, sociopaths and psychopaths