Episode 7: Manipulation Tactics of a Love Fraud

TRIGGER WARNING: Descriptions of the ways we have been manipulated can be extremely distressing to hear. Please be careful how you take in the information in this podcast   – and how much you take in at one sitting. It is absolutely not my intention to make you afraid and distressed and then try to sell you something – which is how some narcissistic abuse recovery experts operate. Read or listen, and be very mindful of how the information is affecting you emotionally and physically. Please. Stop when you find it too distressing to take in all at once.

The Devil is in the Detail



The sophisticated shallow charming persona of the psychopath whitewashes over the - dare I say it- sinister tactics that actually operate their day to day lives: the covert (some unconscious) manipulation of the truth, the target's emotions, other people's perceptions of the target and themselves. The things they DO for their self- gratification and aggrandisement, counter to what they SAY to win hearts and minds.

Remember, we are not talking about a macho aggressive overtly racist sexist pig here. We are talking about a smooth talking glib easy-going charming people-magnet. We are talking about behaviour that no one else can see but those they prey on, or those outside the charm circle, and few would believe if they could see it anyway!

Here are some manipulation techniques that fly under the radar for those trusting souls amongst us. In order of escalation - as the narcopath tightens the screw.

©Margot MacCallum