Series2 Ep2: Why Me? (…of all the fish in the sea?)

Okay, so if you’re doing your research online to figure out what the hell just happened to you, you’ll find theories of narcissistic abuse that include YOU being co-dependent and YOU having weak boundaries. This victim-blaming rhetoric and the theories about codependents being narcissist magnets may be fair and reasonable in some cases, but how about you contemplate that a bit later in your recovery......when you’ve worked through the shame of blaming yourself for everything.

Let’s sprinkle some water on the fire of this debate and emphasise that narcopaths have an extraordinary capacity for riding roughshod over other people’s boundaries, and using persuasive or manipulative coercion that creates dependency and co-dependency In their intimate others.

This might have been the only relationship in your life where you ended up co-dependent, with annihilated boundaries, so please shift your focus to other things, including your finer qualities that attracted the predator. This evidence is out there in the case studies and not only my clinical opinion. On the whole, narcopaths prey on the kindest, most loyal and generous people. They prey on innocents!

You are not to blame!